Crystal Potter
Bio
I'm a death doula who writes about grief, presence and end-of-life realities. I focus on helping individuals, their families and their support system navigate the final season of life with care and clarity.
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Living in a "Death Space"
I choose to live my life in what I call a “death space.” As a death doula, I talk about death-a lot. That makes some people pause. I’m often aware that this moment, this conversation, this cup of coffee could be the last time I see YOU, whoever that “you” is in that moment. Almost daily, I wonder silently to myself, who in my life will be next. I don’t dwell here, and I don't obsess over it. Most of the time it’s a fleeting thought that leaves as quickly as it comes, but it’s there and makes its presence known. That presence makes me live with open eyes. I know that all things that have life will one day no longer exist. That doesn’t make me sad. Most of the time, it softens me and it changes how I move through the world by slowing down.
By Crystal Potter20 days ago in Humans
What is vigil planning?
As a Death Doula I talk about vigil plans often, so what are they? Let’s talk. A vigil plan is simply your wishes for what the space around you feels like when you’re dying. They can be as simple or detailed as you want. They can (and should) change over time as you grow, learn and evolve. They can-and most definitely should-be talked about, not just with loved ones but with everyone. Hell, I talk about mine with strangers at the grocery store.
By Crystal Potter22 days ago in Humans
