adoption

Adoption proves that sometimes, you can choose your family; all about the process before, during and after adoption.

Navigating Relationships with Emotional Intelligence
Relationships are the very fabric of our lives, weaving together our experiences, shaping our identities, and providing a profound sense of connection. Yet, they are also incredibly complex, often fraught with misunderstandings, heartbreak, and the bewildering question: "Why do relationships fail?" It's a question that echoes in countless hearts, hinting at deeper psychological currents beneath the surface.
By Being Inquisitive3 days ago in Families
The Power of Presence
When “Good Parenting” Became a Feeling In modern parenting conversations, “good” has increasingly come to mean emotionally warm, verbally affirming, and immediately comforting. A good parent is expected to soothe distress quickly, validate feelings consistently, and minimize discomfort whenever possible. These traits are treated as obvious indicators of healthy parenting, reinforced by cultural messaging, therapeutic language, and social reward structures. When a child feels better in the moment, the parenting decision is assumed to have been correct, and when discomfort persists, the decision is often framed as a failure of care rather than a necessary part of development.
By Peter Thwing - Host of the FST Podcast4 days ago in Families
DNA Test Said She Wasn't the Mother… But She Gave Birth to Them
One of the strangest and most complicated medical stories in history is the story of Lydia Fairchild. In 2002, Lydia was in a very difficult situation. She was pregnant with her third child and was still separated from her partner, Jamie Townsend.
By souhila6 days ago in Families
Six Things Men like More In Women Than Good looks
Physical attraction often gets most of the attention in conversations about relationships, but in reality, long-term connection is built on much deeper qualities. While good looks may catch someone’s eye, they rarely hold someone’s heart. Here are six things many men value in women even more than physical beauty.
By Ibrahim Shah 8 days ago in Families
The Silence Beneath the Earth
The morning her brother was laid to rest arrived wrapped in a heavy gray sky. The air itself seemed to mourn, thick and still, as if the world had paused to acknowledge her sorrow. Amina stood beside the open grave, her hands trembling in the folds of her black shawl. Around her, voices murmured prayers and condolences, but they sounded distant, like echoes drifting from another life.
By Farhad11 days ago in Families
The Weight of a Promise
When Bilal was ten years old, he made a promise he did not fully understand. His mother was sitting beside his grandfather’s hospital bed, her eyes tired but steady. The old man, once strong and energetic, now looked fragile beneath the white sheets. Bilal remembered holding his grandfather’s hand and hearing him whisper, “Take care of your family, no matter what.” At the time, the words felt simple, almost ordinary. But years later, they would become the foundation of Bilal’s character.
By Sudais Zakwan12 days ago in Families
The Night Everything Fell Apart
The Night Everything Fell Apart Ubaid I used to believe that life collapses slowly—like a building with cracks that warn you before it falls. I was wrong. Sometimes, everything shatters in a single night. It was a Thursday evening when the sky looked strangely heavy, as if it knew something I didn’t. I remember sitting at my desk, pretending to work while my mind wandered through unfinished conversations and silent disappointments. My phone lay beside me, face down, as if hiding from the truth it was about to deliver. At 9:17 p.m., it rang. I almost didn’t answer. It was my younger sister, Areeba. She rarely called me at night. Her voice trembled when I picked up. “Bhai… you need to come home.” There are certain tones in a person’s voice that freeze your blood. This was one of them. “What happened?” I asked, already standing up, my heart racing. “Just come. Please.” The drive home felt endless. Every red light felt personal, as though the universe had chosen to delay me. My mind ran through a hundred possibilities—none of them good. By the time I reached the house, my hands were shaking. The front door was open. That was the first sign that something was wrong. Inside, the living room lights were on, but the house felt darker than ever. My mother sat on the couch, her face pale, her hands wrapped tightly around her scarf. Areeba stood beside her, eyes red from crying. “Where’s Abbu?” I asked. No one answered. That silence said more than words ever could. “He left,” my mother finally whispered. Left. The word didn’t make sense. My father wasn’t the kind of man who “left.” He was the quiet pillar of our home—the one who paid the bills, fixed broken taps, and watched the news every night at exactly 10 p.m. “He said he couldn’t do this anymore,” Areeba said, her voice cracking. “He packed a bag and walked out.” It felt like the floor shifted beneath me. For years, I had noticed the tension. The late-night arguments behind closed doors. The cold silences at dinner. The forced smiles during family gatherings. But I had convinced myself it was temporary. Every family has problems, I thought. We’ll get through it. That night, I realized denial can be a dangerous comfort. “Did he say where he’s going?” I asked. My mother shook her head. “He just said he needs peace.” Peace. The word echoed bitterly in my mind. What about us? What about the peace of the family he was leaving behind? I walked into my parents’ bedroom. The cupboard door was slightly open. Half his clothes were gone. His watch box was empty. On the bedside table, there was a folded piece of paper. It wasn’t addressed to anyone. Just a few lines in his familiar handwriting: I tried. I really did. But sometimes staying hurts more than leaving. Forgive me. I read it three times, hoping the meaning would change. It didn’t. Anger rose inside me like fire. How could he walk away? How could he leave my mother to explain this to relatives, to neighbors, to a society that thrives on whispers? How could he leave Areeba, who still needed him to check her math homework? And how could he leave me—with the sudden weight of being “the man of the house”? That night, everything fell apart—not just our family structure, but the illusions I had built around it. Around midnight, the power went out. Normally, we would joke about the timing. That night, no one said a word. The house sank into darkness, lit only by the faint glow of streetlights filtering through the curtains. I sat on the floor beside my mother. For the first time in my life, she looked small. “I failed,” she murmured. “You didn’t,” I said quickly, though I wasn’t sure what I believed. “This isn’t your fault.” But blame has a way of creeping into broken spaces. It fills the gaps with questions that have no answers. Around 2 a.m., my phone buzzed. A message from Abbu. Take care of them. That was it. No explanation. No location. No promise to return. Just a responsibility handed over like an inheritance. I stared at the screen, my chest tight. I wanted to call him, to shout, to demand answers. Instead, I turned the phone off. Because deep down, I knew this wasn’t just about one fight or one bad day. This was years of unspoken pain finally spilling over. As the night stretched on, reality settled in. Tomorrow, I would have to face relatives asking uncomfortable questions. I would have to manage finances I barely understood. I would have to be strong for my sister when I felt like collapsing myself. But in that darkness, something unexpected happened. We talked. For the first time in years, my mother opened up about her loneliness. About how silence had replaced partnership. About how pride had stopped both of them from seeking help. Areeba admitted she had heard more arguments than we realized. And I confessed that I had seen the cracks but chose to ignore them because it was easier than confronting the truth. The night that broke us also stripped us of pretenses. By dawn, the sky softened into pale blue. Birds began to chirp as if nothing had changed. But everything had. Our family would never look the same again. There would be judgment, financial strain, and emotional wounds that wouldn’t heal overnight. There would be moments of anger and days of deep sadness. Yet, as sunlight slowly filled the room, I understood something important: Falling apart doesn’t always mean the end. Sometimes, it’s the beginning of rebuilding—without lies, without forced smiles, without pretending everything is fine. That night, I lost the version of my family I thought I had. But I gained something else. Clarity. Strength I didn’t know I possessed. And the painful, necessary understanding that love cannot survive where honesty is absent. The night everything fell apart was the worst night of my life.
By Ubaid 14 days ago in Families
What Fathers Uniquely Provide
The Error of Treating Parenting Roles as Functionally Identical Modern parenting theory often begins with the assumption that mothers and fathers are largely interchangeable, differing only in style or temperament. From this view, any deficits in one parent can be compensated for by the other through increased emotional effort, sensitivity, or presence. Parenting becomes a question of intention and quantity rather than function and role. This assumption is appealing because it aligns with cultural preferences for symmetry and fairness, but it collapses under closer examination of developmental outcomes.
By Peter Thwing - Host of the FST Podcast18 days ago in Families
Secrets Beneath the Olive Tree
The olive tree had stood in the courtyard of the old house for as long as anyone could remember. Its gnarled branches twisted toward the sky, leaves silver in the sunlight, roots tangled deep beneath the earth. To outsiders, it was just a tree. To the family that lived there, it was history, memory, and mystery all at once.
By Sudais Zakwan22 days ago in Families
Weaknesses
Her name is Nazia, and her husband, Ryan, was loving and caring, treating her with the gentleness of a devoted partner. They were living a joyful life until one day, Ryan had a severe car accident. Due to his carelessness, he hadn’t fastened his seatbelt, resulting in significant injuries. Thankfully, he survived, but the accident changed everything.
By Sudais Zakwan29 days ago in Families
Growing Up Without a Dad
Growing up without a dad leaves a space you notice even before you can name it. It is not always about what is missing materially. It is about guidance, reassurance, and the quiet sense that someone is always there to support you. Children notice absence even when adults try to soften it or explain it away. They notice empty chairs at birthdays, missed celebrations, and unanswered questions about who they are and where they belong.
By Eunice Kamauabout a month ago in Families
Raising Children Alone: Choice, Circumstance, and the Emotional Consequences We Rarely Talk About
In recent years, more people are raising children alone. Sometimes it is a deliberate choice. Other times it is the result of loss, separation, abandonment, or the need to leave an unsafe situation. Society often debates the decision itself, asking whether it was chosen or forced, as if that distinction determines whether the emotional weight is valid.
By Eunice Kamauabout a month ago in Families