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Sometimes a good divorce is better than a bad marriage.
Family Tree
Trees take years to grow up and be strong. Each year they form a new ring and grow leaves and branches. As the tree continues to grow, some branches break, some new ones form, and some are just always there. Trees are a lot like people. We slowly grow up to be strong, and we have people in our lives who come and go like the leaves and branches. Some people will stick around and be there for you, others will deceive and leave you, but you will also meet new people who you will grow new bonds with. When most people think of a family tree, they think about their parents, siblings, and other relatives. Family is very important, however, some of your family will not always be there for you.
By Kendra Campbell8 years ago in Families
The Hand Rocking the Cradle
Family Dynamics: There are five stages to forming any group, according to psychologist Steve Tuckman’s model, first developed in the 1960’s (Content Team, 2018): Forming, Storming, Norming, Performing, and Conforming (or Adjourning). The concepts that apply to business can also be applied to how the family unit forms, because essentially, we form our own group—a family group. When all members of a group are performing as a team, the business runs like a well-oiled machine, but throw a wrench in the process and the whole thing can fail. In this report, I will explain the dynamics of forming a [family] group, various wrenches that get thrown in the mix, along with how to survive divorce and the effects it can have on your life.
By SM Fitzgerald8 years ago in Families
Dealing With Divorce
I was 11/12 when my parents divorced, and to say I was blindsided is an understatement. Like every child, I thought my parents were going to be together forever; the perfect family. Looking back now, as an adult, I can see the small indications that something was wrong. No affection, Dad working late nights, the small arguments etc., etc, But as a child, I didn't pay much attention. Why would I?
By Becky Stanway8 years ago in Families
A Change Is Gonna Come
I did this video because my ex-wife hasn't let me see my children in a very long time. It seems that people forget the damage that this does to the children. Has it damaged me? Of course. I miss them every single day, and as of right now it's been over eight years. Sometimes I get a picture or a phone call if she is wanting money for something. Max was only 5 and Olivia was 4. My son's voice has changed as he is becoming a young man, and my little girl calls someone else Daddy instead of me. I cry every single day. Whenever I am in a crowd of people I always find myself looking around to see if they are there. I close my eyes and I see my little girl's smile and hear her laughter. I can almost feel Max wrapping his little arms around my neck. I miss my babies so much. The last thing my little boy told me the night I found out that she would be keeping them from me was: "Daddy I will always fight for you." I had no idea why he was even saying that, but I learned the next day, and I've thought about his little words every day since then. I even went so far as to tattoo the words on to my arm so I would look at them every single day. I went through several stages through all of this. At one point I hated her and prayed for bad things to happen to her.
By Randolph T8 years ago in Families
Two Homes Are Better Than None
If you’d have told me 10 years ago that I’d enter my journey into motherhood unmarried and barely out of college, I’d have laughed. It’s easy to watch movies or shows and see how awful it seems. Mom and dad fighting for time, trying to be the better parent, and at each other’s throats about money, just to name a few of the complications. Let me explain the way my sons dad and I have kept the peace his entire life without stressing each other out.
By Kayla Raye8 years ago in Families
Maybe
Do you know that I cyber stalk you? When it first happened, I would creep all day long. It was an obsession. I don't know why. Was it to get mad about your life? Maybe? Was it to torture myself? Perhaps. It could have been just plain disbelief that you could be all over Facebook or Instagram smiling. How are you smiling after what you did to me? To my family? To your husband and your family? I would criticize everything about you. How your hair was, or how ugly you looked. You have a really stupid smile and teeth did you know that? And that picture of you in the bathing suit? I laughed at that for a week. I see your flaws. I see each and every flaw in your pictures. To anyone that doesn’t know you or know what you did, you look perfectly normal, pretty even sometimes. But I know better. I know that behind your smiling face lives a heartless, lying girl.
By sara gockley8 years ago in Families
Protecting Your Child at All Costs
One of the hardest things a parent will ever have to experience is protecting their child from the other parent. It's heart wrenching because most parents want nothing more than to foster a good, healthy, and even beautiful relationship between their child and the other parent. At least that's always what I wanted. My daughter's father and I separated years ago. I was so set on my daughter having a good relationship with her father that I turned a blind eye to red flags that I shouldn't have. The very last thing I ever wanted was to fight in a courtroom over my own flesh and blood. It seems so heartless and inhumane. So the little things I noticed as unhealthy I tried to excuse with his inexperience as a parent or doing his best based on the fact that he had no structure as a child. My single mom friends always stressed to me how lucky I was that her father even wanted to be in her life, so at times I felt ungrateful for wanting to take away any of the time he wanted to spend with her. But when his behavior turned into borderline psychological abuse I had to step in. He's discipline tactics became erratic and unacceptable. They were humiliating and heartbreaking for our daughter. Not to mention the unhealthy and unlawful lifestyle he was living, so in turn he was subjecting our child to. I finally did what I thought I'd never do. I filed for sole custody. I felt as though I had let my daughter down. Like I was taking away her normalcy. That's when I became the bad guy. That's when the negative talk about Mommy started. I wouldn't defend myself to the things she would come home saying because that would mean telling her the truth of why I did what I did. That would mean crushing the heroic view my little girl had about her dad. That would make my daughter think both of her parents hated each other and placing her smack dab in the middle of our drama. Not gonna happen! So I took the brunt of her anger and confusion and that was okay with me.
By Angel Perez8 years ago in Families
It's Better This Way
For as long as I remember, my parents always bickered back and forth. For as long as I remember, my parents never kissed, hugged, or held hands. When my father tried to pull my mother close, she would push him away. When my mother tried to talk to my father, he was not receptive.
By Kyleigh Keovilay8 years ago in Families
Divorce and a Daughter
Being told those four words was truly the hardest thing anyone has to go through, especially with a child. You fight between want your heart wants and what would benefit yourself and this precious little baby looking up to you for answer. How can anyone choose between fight to save your marriage or fight to find who are you? You’re lost, you’re confused, you’re heart is aching, all the while you have this beautiful one-year-old looking at you for answers and is concerned.
By Kayla Hans8 years ago in Families
How Does Divorce Effect Children?
Divorce amongst couples with children has become so common that when a child says “My parents aren’t together” it isn’t quite a shock as it may have been years ago. Most of us have experienced or know someone who has experienced a divorce in their family. The divorce process within a family can have a variety of negative effects on a child. Today I'm going to explain to you the different categories that these negative effects may fall under according to the Article titled: The Psychology of Divorce: A Lawyer’s Primer, Part 2: The Effects of Divorce on Children written by: Portnoy. The first being psychological effects and the second being emotional.
By Vanessa Solorzano8 years ago in Families
