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An answer to observing a scene gone wrong
This post was inspired by an email I received. It brings together many issues that we have to engage with when inviting others to join us to observe as we engage with our specific kink dynamics. Do you think the observer is part of scene they are observing? This email encapsulates many of the general assumptions people can come to the kink community after only learning about what it means to be dominant or submissive through porn and fantasy. This email is a learning experience about communication and how to handle unpleasant feelings while attending an event or online. Not every piece of advice that any of us will give is going to be positive. People need to know they are wrong and need to see consequences when they do not change their behavior. As you read this over and please think about what you might say. Chances are good you will encounter someone like this.
By Joseph Crown5 years ago in Filthy
11 Good Habits of Happy Couples Walking and Holding Hands, Planning Sex
In the new year, the relationship between husband and wife is no exception. The Gender Relations Research Group of the University of Michigan in the United States has conducted long-term investigations on the relationship between husbands and wives since 1986 and has concluded "ten good habits for happy couples."
By Isshie Norine5 years ago in Filthy
How To Be The Best Sub For A Femdom
Many men express their need and desire to serve the woman or femme of their dreams; do whatever they want and bask in their extreme or nurturing grasp. They'll chirp their favorite buzz word of anything - "I'll do anything you want, Mistress!" but can't even do the bare minimum of sending tributes or even performing a task properly. One time a potential sub bought my application from my ManyVids store and couldn't even fill it out with proper handwriting and detailed answers that were instructed to provide. Most subs in this day and age in the world of female domination are also not even loyal to their Dommes. On the down-low, they will secretly follow Dommes on their social media and get off to their content, tribute them, or even follow any tasks that they are given. It's a rarity to see a sub be loyal and fulfill every need of their Domme. These men smear stains on the title of submissive and are not people you want to flock to. They are people that will just bring you down.
By LUX GATSBY5 years ago in Filthy
Self-Pleasure During Self-Isolation
Quarantine has been rough on us all, and likely hardest for those of us who live alone. It seems counter-intuitive that by physically staying apart from each other, we’re actually supporting one another. These are unprecedented times that call for us to be brave and to exercise our self-love (and probably isn’t the greatest time to download a dating app that puts you in intimate contact with strangers). It’s important to keep in mind that all of our sacrifices during this time will have a powerful impact on our communities. All this being said, keep your head up, because there are plenty of ways to make this quarantine work for you.
By Brandy Clark5 years ago in Filthy
Sex Advice
I'm an 18 year old girl that is well was sexually active. I've had 3 sexual partners and listen they were all different. I lost my virginity at the age of 16 and the guy I lost my virginity to, girls lets just say I could've waited. Although I'm here to give some advice based on my experience.
By Genesis Gonzalez5 years ago in Filthy
Safer Sex Is Better Than No Sex
I. Love. Sex! Engaging in it. Talking about it. Watching it. Writing about it. Born into the sexiest astrological sign of Scorpio, it was all but expected for me to be sex positive! After YEARS of being called everything from a prude (because I wasn't as open-minded about them hiding their love of pornography) to a nymphomaniac (by some who clearly weren't as sexually free as I am), as I approach the end of my fifth decade on this planet, I am fully embracing my nudist free spirit and everything that comes with it! Thankfully, discovering polyamory has shown me how to establish ethical polyandrous relationships allowing me to safely interact with my partners, with or without sex. But who wants to be in a sexless relationship? I am not asexual so I will have what they aren't having!! So... How do I safely maintain multiple loving relationships and remain sexually satisfied? Transparent communication and regular testing to ensure that I have not contracted any sexually transmitted diseases. Why transparent communication? I hate being lied to and I am a bad liar. Why regular testing? I hate condoms but I want my partners to fully trust me.
By Author Lea Mishell5 years ago in Filthy
Voice Acting Advice: Reading NSFW Scripts
In Voice Acting, there will be a lot of jobs over the course of your career. From audiobooks, to advertisements, and video narrations. To family cards and NSFW (Not Safe For Work/Wife) voice overs. It’s that last one that I’ll be going over today. The amount of cheap NSFW requests I get over the course of a year is unbelievable. This year alone I ended up with 13. I’m not usually a NSFW voice over, but I’ve dipped into it. I occasionally do some for a quick chuckle, and the $8 isn’t a bad bonus. Like I said, these people are CHEAP.
By Skyler Ricketts5 years ago in Filthy
In Response: What's kinda like playing with yourself but isn't?
Every day I get questions from people that attended one of my trainings, read my blog, or my books. Once I get the same question again and again for a while, I recognize that it would be worthwhile to share this q and a with others. So this question about restrictions on stimulation of oneself is one that regularly pops up. It is also a question that is asked by everyone and not just one gender. I welcome your thoughts and impressions on how you might answer this yourself. Whether you agree or disagree with my reply you will get to learn what iktsuarpok means.
By Joseph Crown5 years ago in Filthy
