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Dating, married, single, divorced, and more. Advice on the relationships you have in life. Dear, Humans..
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Domestic Violence If you look up domestic violence, you will find: Domestic violence is a pattern of behavior which involves violence, physical, sexual, or psychological abuse against an intimate partner. If you ask anyone that has been through it they will say it is hell. You never know when things are going to explode. You walk on egg shells continuously, and try to keep the kids quiet, food made, laundry done, lunch packed, and on an on. You are responsible for everything and nothing better go wrong or it's on you.
By Misty Frith8 years ago in Humans
Early Dating 101
Let’s face it; dating is hard! You meet someone, start to get to know them, and before you know it, you’re seeing them all the time, and calling each other those adorably gross pet names like cuddly bear and baby cakes. Ok, maybe not those two, but you get my point. After the honeymoon phase of your partner being nothing but amazing in your eyes, there comes that period of wondering and questioning. Is this real? Is this really how they are all the time? How would they handle a fight? It’s the time I like to refer to as the hardest part of early on dating. It’s the part where you figure out who the person truly is. It’s what can make or break the relationship in the beginning.
By Ashley Lindvig8 years ago in Humans
To the Girl Who Thinks She'll Never Move On
I know you are thinking that you can't move on. You are thinking that you will always love this guy but I'm telling you that you will move on. I did. I moved on and fell in love with someone who treats me the way I deserve to be treated. I fell in love with someone who treats me the way every girl deserves to be treated. I fell in love with someone who grounds me and makes me feel worthy and loved. I fell in love with a man who makes me feel safe. But it wasn't an easy path that led me to this man.
By Hannah Beaton8 years ago in Humans
Toxic People
We’ve all encountered a toxic person in our lives at one time or another. Whether it’s a family member, someone at the grocery store, a coworker, a friend you’ve had since 3rd grade, or perhaps your romantic partner. Either way, whether you know them now or if you meet them later in your life, they are bad news and will drain you physically, mentally, and emotionally if you allow them to.
By Bianca Ebako8 years ago in Humans
He Was Hers First
One of my dearest friends, a person I have known for so many years, my best friend, is a guy. Back when I was in high school, I had the pleasure of attending a brand new high school my senior year. It actually wasn’t a pleasure at all. I hated it at first, but I ended up making some lifelong friends. One of my absolute favorite people is my friend Derek.
By iHeart Nelle8 years ago in Humans
How to Find The "ME" In "TEAM"
I am a mother to five children and two dogs in a high-octane, "Fast and Furious" franchise family. My husband is a musician by day, afternoon, evening, night, I guess whenever it calls for it. When I married him, I had no clue what I was getting myself into. This, unfortunately, called for many nights of being the parent to set aside a lot of stuff that I wanted to do and make sure that the family was first.
By Dana Bradford-Majors8 years ago in Humans
Signs The Guy You’re Talking To Is A F*ckboy
He doesn’t let you touch his phone – red flag. His phone is always facing down – red flag. If says, “come over, let's watch Netflix” – red flag. If he texts you anytime after 10 PM – red flag. If he ghosts on you mid conversation and picks up hours later where the conversation ended without an explanation – red flag. He goes for sex right away – red flag. I’m so sorry, ladies, but it’s not what you think it is with this guy. And I know it hurts because you want to believe all the sweet nothings he tells you, but take it from someone who has chosen all the wrong fish in the sea. What I’m about to tell you are the ultimate signs of a f*ckboy.
By Bianca Ebako8 years ago in Humans
Born to Not Fit In
I realized growing up that I was different from the rest of the world. Not because I have a different set of fingerprints or that my social security number was one of kind, but that I physically looked different. When I was 5-years-old and truly started to see a difference in the way I looked, I thought it was AMAZING! I had an insight that no one else had. To give you some background information of where I’m coming from, I have a very diverse heritage. My ethnicity includes black, white, Native American, Puerto Rican, and a bit of Haitian. My dad had red hair and freckles, my mom had the lightest skin a black woman could have (in my 5-year-old opinion), my older two siblings were definitely a lighter shade of brown than I was, and then there was me. Don’t get me started on my white cousins who lived in California. But growing up through the ages of 5 - 10, I saw myself as “lucky” given that I could relate to some many people of color. Then society hit hard, and my innocence was quickly taken away. I was being told through social media that there was a right way to look, and that was not me. Here, let me take you on a journey of why I was born not to fit in.
By Erika Watson8 years ago in Humans
Love Languages 101
When it comes to love, our styles are as unique as our features. The way we communicate love to one another is usually the sum of all the ways we have learned to express love in our past. Soaking up lessons on love from our parents, teachers, romances and TV shows. Sometimes, serendipitously, you find a friend or a lover who seems to be already fluent in your love language. On the other hand, some people have to practice at learning to speak the other's lingo. It can feel like each person is giving it their all, but still there is a disconnect. But don't lose hope! By understanding how the other person accepts love and gives love, the communication will flow and each person will feel appreciated and equal. Here are some ways to note your different love languages:
By Danielle Lmt8 years ago in Humans
