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Dating, married, single, divorced, and more. Advice on the relationships you have in life. Dear, Humans..

Money for Two
If you just moved into a house or apartment with your partner, then you might have begun to realize that you need to get your finances together. Both of you have probably been working on separate budgets at this point, not having to think about anyone else’s needs but your own. However, buying that extra pop at the gas station or that burger from the fast food restaurant might be an issue now as you both have to work together to make sure that you can pay your bills and for the basic needs.
By Nicole Higginbotham-Hogue6 days ago in Humans
Work and Pleasure
After you and your partner tackle your budget, you might realize that the chores that you have in your new place have increased. You might have been used to living on your own and having your own clean-up routine, but now that you share your space with another person, the work to keep your home clean might have doubled and each of you might require a little more when it comes to housekeeping. Therefore, it is important for the two of you to sit down and communicate about these tasks. You want to make sure that you are both on the same page with what needs to be done, and if there are extra tasks that one person requires that the other doesn’t, then you need to find a way to compromise on those.
By Nicole Higginbotham-Hogue6 days ago in Humans
Living Together
Living together might be feeling a little more normal at this point. The two of you are probably used to each other’s habits or at least know what to expect, and you are probably going about your regular routine of tackling your responsibilities. However, with this new move, there is a potential that the two of you might have taken on extra hours, and the time that you have with each other might not be as much as you thought you would have.
By Nicole Higginbotham-Hogue6 days ago in Humans
Fear Doesn't Keep Dates
Dating can be a difficult process for anyone. It can be difficult to figure out how to find the person that you are looking for and what standards you should have when meeting new people. However, this process doesn't have to be stressful. The point of dating is to have fun and find the person that adds to your life, so why let all of your worries and fears take hold of you?
By Nicole Higginbotham-Hogue6 days ago in Humans
Finding Love
Now you have decided that you are ready to date, and you are trying to find somewhere to meet that special person. So, where do you go? How do you find that person that will sweep you off your feet? The answers to these questions won't be the same for everyone.
By Nicole Higginbotham-Hogue6 days ago in Humans
Communication is Key
Once you find someone that you are interested in, take the time to get to know him or her. Talk about the things that you want out of life and see if your goals line up. Also, talk about your expectations when it comes to a relationship. Let the other person know what you want to get out of a relationship and listen to what he or she wants as well. See if your wants and needs line up. If they don't, consider whether moving forward with the other person would be an additive to your life or if it would bring you farther away from the things that you want and need.
By Nicole Higginbotham-Hogue6 days ago in Humans
The Lie That Love Knows Best. AI-Generated.
Love is the easiest word to manipulate. Parents, partners, friends — everyone wields it like a compass, a rulebook, even a justification for control. “I only want what’s best for you,” they say. And because you care, because you want to belong, because you want to avoid conflict, you listen. You follow. You compromise.
By Fault Lines6 days ago in Humans
The Lipreader’s Truth: Stop Assuming I’m Understanding Everything
Most hearing people imagine lipreading as built‑in subtitles. They think that if they face me and speak clearly, I’m “reading” their words like text on a screen.
By Tracy Stine6 days ago in Humans
Your Family Isn’t the Enemy — But They’re Not Your Compass Either. AI-Generated.
There’s a seductive lie making the rounds: that your family is either your greatest blessing or your greatest prison. Both are lazy conclusions.
By Fault Lines6 days ago in Humans
The Hidden Damage of Disrespect
Disrespect doesn’t always come loudly. It isn’t always insults, shouting, or obvious cruelty. Most of the time, disrespect is subtle. It shows up in tone. In dismissal. In being ignored. In jokes that cut just a little too close. In boundaries crossed casually, as if they never mattered.
By mike6 days ago in Humans
The Quiet Fear That Nothing Really Matters
There’s a kind of fear people don’t talk about because it doesn’t scream. It doesn’t feel like panic. It doesn’t feel like sadness in a clear way.
By mike6 days ago in Humans
Why You Can Feel Lonely Even When You’re Never Alone
Loneliness is usually imagined as physical isolation. An empty room. No messages. No plans. No one around. But one of the most confusing forms of loneliness happens when none of that is true.
By mike6 days ago in Humans