marriage
Marriage is not so much a word as it is a sentence–a life sentence.
Work in Marriage
See the picture above, January 16th, 2016 is the day I said I Do to the love of my life, but what I didn't realize what I said I Do to was a lifetime of work. Don't get me wrong, I love my wife and wouldn't want no other way to spend my life with her but no one prepares you for the work in marriage. I didn't have any examples to follow by growing up, my parents had a toxic marriage and divorced when I was 6 or 7 and, watching my mom and the toxic men she continued to be with and living with my womanizing father and step mother in my teen years, never taught me that marriage was ever a good thing if you work at it. My wife didn't have any good examples herself, losing her mother at the age of 11 and her father battle with alcoholism and drugs for years and even in her adulthood, he seems to carry toxic traits as well. We weren't given tools to have a toxic free relationship or marriage, but we knew we wanted love and found it in each other. We carried toxic ways and energy in our relationship of 8 years and in our soon to be 5 years of marriage and didn't know where to start. Yes we've tried therapy twice, honestly I want to say once because the first therapist seem to be bias when it was couples therapy and not individual therapy. So what's next? Well we've decided to take matters in our own hands, we separated, not legally not out of the home, but we have decided to remove things that seem to be our temporary fix and decided to try different methods, we have become less intimate, allow raw feelings to come through where conversations are less complicated to have because we just was cuddling and under each other. We actually don't annoy each other as much. We argue less, we hear each other out more. This was the work that honestly should have been done in the beginning of us but we are saving us. Once we clear the old toxic ways, we will be able to focus on the other things to work on, because we will be empty nesters in the near future and we will learn to adapt to it being just us. So for the engaged couples out there, the newly weds that are out of the honeymoon phase, the been married for a while what's next couples, marriage requires work and if you love each other as much as you say you do, understand that clearly and get to work and continue to figure out your next steps until death do you part!
By Lola Naiyesha 6 years ago in Humans
The Wedding Night
All my life, my virginity was an essential thing for me. It had taken its own identity. It defined me and made me who I was. So when it came to the day that I was no longer a virgin, it was a big deal! I remember the talk of the wedding night being of importance. Culturally it was not to be spoken of until the day before the wedding night. But it was not a secret to me. All of my older married friends had given me a glimpse of what the wedding night was all about.
By Aissatou Barry6 years ago in Humans
Twenty-one and Married
Yep, twenty one and married indeed. When I decided I wanted to get married, it seemed as if everyone had an opinion. Like literally. There were some like “finally, girl you getting old,” while others were like,” you have your whole life ahead of you.” It was a never-ending discussion until the day of the wedding.
By Aissatou Barry6 years ago in Humans
Marriage On The Back Burner
So when the COVID-19 Pandemic started, my husband and I made the joke about coupl es during this time. Wondering how everyone would hold up under pressure. How many relationships would fail during this time? Little did I know, our relationship struggled a little during the time we've been at home. It just feels different. Almost like dealing with each other was forced. I mean, we've worked from home together for years on end. We are always in each others face, so you would think that having to deal with a stay home order would be a simple thing for us. Turns out, that was a lie.
By Friday Vibes6 years ago in Humans
How Much Salary Should a Man Earn Before Considering Marriage?
10 Nigerians give their thoughts. It's a very big question for people everywhere. When you're Nigerian, it's double the pressure, double the number of people who ask the question, and double the frequency of times people ask it.
By Jide Okonjo6 years ago in Humans
Roller Coaster Life
Do you ever feel like your life is a roller coaster, I’m here to tell ya it is. Now I am not an expert I just have experienced it and still am experience it. What I define a roller coaster life for me is when you climb up to the top of the first drop that is something that you are working on and then when you drop is when life is going great. You will have several big climbs, because I consider the big climb is a new chapter in your life and you are having to figure and work things out. It has been going on since you were born and to whatever you are going through now. When you go to the Theme Park you want to ride the roller coaster over and over, but in life you end up wishing you won’t have to go through the roller coaster again. I will tell ya though when you keep going on the roller coaster it makes you stronger. I hope you don’t think that life is easy because the Man upstairs gives us obstacles to learn and to have more faith in Him and yourself. Believe me I have had several roller coasters and some I never knew if I was going to get over the very first climb, but I always did. It isn’t easy by no means, it is hard, but you need to keep fighting through it because if you don’t your ride will never end. I believe everyone can make it because once you do it makes the next climb much, much easier for you to climb over.
By Whitney Riddle6 years ago in Humans
7 Convincing Reasons to Get Married
1. The Process Marriage a delightful and fun procedure. You discover why you should book your stag or unhitched female gathering, have your best man and house keeper of respect plan it, go out on the town to shop for dresses and the tux, have the service, and afterward praise your affection at your gathering.
By Timchenko Vladimir6 years ago in Humans
Marrying Young for the Right Reasons
Hey there, I've been pondering the question regarding to marriage for quite some time now. I know what you all may be thinking, if you're writing about marrying young, you must be a teenager. Nope, I'm actually 26 years old. That doesn't make a difference in many eyes, I am fairly young. However, I've been in a loving committed relationship for the past six years. Six years may not sound like a long time, but, to our generation we might as well been married for 35 years already (lol). I've known my Fiance for the past seven years. The first year we were getting to know one another, playing cat and mouse to be honest, and becoming friends. We shortly realized we were falling for each other, and we made our relationship official in 2013. Fast forward to December 2016 we started talking about marriage, and not because our peers and loved ones were pressuring us (even though they were earlier in our relationship) but because we love each other and want to build and grow together.
By Diana Barrientos6 years ago in Humans
Love marriage prediction: The secret of a Happy married Life
It’s tough to Make predictions, Especially about the future but not about the marriage life. Marriages are made in heaven, a very famous phrase which has a certain truth about it, as one can’t foretell who is going to marry whom. A prosperous marriage is a long Conversations which always seems too short. Our Astrologer Specialist provides marriage predictions based on the date of birth and time.
By Horoscope Specialist6 years ago in Humans
5 steps to stay married in Lockdown!
The world as we know it has changed forever . Families all over the world are in lockdown as a precaution against the Coronavirus. Suddenly and without much warning at all , everything that used to drive us and keep us busy doesn’t seem to matter anymore. We are at home , or at least most of us are. Some of us are having to work from home and others cannot work at all. So how are you married folks out there faring? We used to spend more waking hours with our colleagues at work than we ever did overall with our spouses. How is this working out for you? Has this been an easy change for you? How are you coping? Are you finding out or rediscovering your spouse’s annoying habits? Or Are you falling in love all over again? Here are 5 steps that could help you keep calm and stay married.
By Lifestyle with Cassandra6 years ago in Humans
