healing
How to heal fully and properly.
Dear Past Me
There is a version of me that still exists in my memory. She moves quickly. She makes plans without hesitation. She says yes without calculating the cost. Her body is not something she negotiates with or questions. It simply works. It carries her forward without resistance, without interruption, without fear.
By Millie Hardy-Sims26 days ago in Motivation
Permission to Rest
Rest used to feel like failure. Before my diagnosis, rest was something I earned after productivity. It was a reward waiting at the end of a finished task list, something to allow myself once everything else had been completed. Rest was optional. It was negotiable. It was something I could postpone in favour of being useful, being present, being enough.
By Millie Hardy-Sims27 days ago in Motivation
Wicked and the Reality of Disability
The Wicked films arrived wrapped in spectacle. Audiences expected soaring vocals, dazzling visuals, and the familiar emotional weight of a beloved musical brought to life. Few viewers expected to encounter one of Hollywood’s most meaningful recent contributions to disability representation.
By Millie Hardy-Sims27 days ago in Motivation
Proving You’re Disabled Enough
The hardest part of applying for disability benefits was not the paperwork. It was the translation. A life quietly reshaped by illness had to be reduced to tick boxes, descriptors, and carefully worded answers. Pain had to become evidence. Fatigue had to become measurable. Personal limitation had to be presented as a case strong enough to be believed.
By Millie Hardy-Sims27 days ago in Motivation
Internalised Ableism
The question didn’t arrive all at once. It appeared slowly, quietly, in moments I didn’t expect. When I used my walking stick on a day I could technically manage without it. When I parked in a disabled space and stepped out of the car without limping. When I told someone about my diagnosis and watched their eyes search my body for confirmation.
By Millie Hardy-Sims27 days ago in Motivation
Am I Disabled Enough?
The hardest part of using my disabled parking badge isn’t the walking. It’s the watching. The moment I step out of the car, I feel it. The pause. The glance. The subtle double-take as someone tries to reconcile what they see with what they believe disability should look like. Their eyes flick from my face to the badge, then back again, searching for evidence that justifies my presence.
By Millie Hardy-Sims27 days ago in Motivation
SACRED CORE ROOTS
Love demonstrates endless compassion despite imperfections, flaws, or mistakes. Love does not disappear, it expands at an exponential rate, as it demonstrates compassionate perseverance, consistency, strength, courage, and clarity beyond the illusionary, obscure, or misaligned notions of control or fear. It requires great courage to begin again despite the coldness within one’s heart. Love can restore the soul to a state of peace, beyond the endurance of ruthless destruction inflicted upon it. Silence reveals the truth within time of one’s limitations, by uncovering or revealing one’s repetitive nature, conditioned adopted programs, or reinforced notions, beliefs, or stories, which are transfixed or etched within the mind, as familiar pain appears and feels safer than progressive change. Truth, hidden motives, and betrayal, causes systematic irreversible internal pain. The soul retains the feeling or weight of the situation. Wounds can be endured and heal within the context of time, but the damage felt by the spoken word or the physical act of a stroke of a pen, echoes beyond space and time. Discipline and focus enables self-mastery and awakening. One must seek relationships that are not savage in nature. Pillaging, using, or depriving another’s soul for gain, demonstrates a relentless need to inflict pain onto others in a destructive manner. Pain projected is often unconscious, subconscious, or conscious pain felt or sustained within. Comparison is the thief of joy, remaining cruel, miserable, jealous, or arrogant deprives the soul of true nurturance and the attainment of greater peace. To embody restorative peace, one must seek to live gently, quietly, humbly, and operate with virtue and ethical discernment, with morality and justice in mind. Love is a dichotomous balance and a juxtaposition of beauty and pain, as it enables the soul to feel every spectrum of emotion within every crevice, facet, and corner of one’s being, as true compassionate empathetic love does not disappear it transcends, heals, and matures within time.
By ELISABETH BABARCI 27 days ago in Motivation
