breakups

When it comes to breakups, pain is inevitable, but Humans thinks that suffering is optional.

The Boy Who Broke My Best Friend's Heart
I hate to get mad at you, I really do, but I have some things I need to say. Some things that you might not like to hear, and some things that she might not want me to voice to you. Either way, I am writing this letter to you, the boy who broke my best friend's heart.
By Jess Dobransky8 years ago in Humans
Broken Heart
She took the risk and in the end, she chalked the loss up to timing; it never being right. And, they could never seem to get on the same page. What they each wanted was different. But, those reasons, (the ones that she thought would give her a peace of mind) didn't keep her from having a million questions and they didn't keep her heart from breaking. Just because she knew she had to let it go, (for her sanity, her soul, & heart's sake) didn't mean it would be easy. She knew having to face and sort through the aftermath of a broken heart would be hard. She also knew, her unresolved emotions and unanswered questions would remain just that, unresolved and unanswered. She wanted closure, but that was something she'd have to find on her own. Her strong-willed mind was already there; ready to close it, let it go, and move on; she knew what was best. It was her heart (the one that held on for so long, the one filled with hope for a future) that struggled to catch up. She believed it would,eventually. She just wanted it to be sooner. No one wants to feel the kind of pain or loss that seems to make your world stop spinning. But, the truth is, there is no escaping the aftermath. At least not for her; the amount of love she had for him is the amount of hurt she would endure. And, just as expected, a wave of emotions would overwhelm her, hitting all at once. With tears in her eyes, she wondered, “just how do I get my heart to stop loving him? How do I stop the (literal) ache in my chest because I won’t see his face or hear his voice anymore? How do I get rid of the knots in my stomach because his absence is painfully present? Why didn't he tell me how to let him go before he walked away?” Just how do you convince a broken heart that what it believed to be real, what was there just yesterday, isn’t there anymore? She’d eventually realize you don’t. There is no ‘shutting it off'; not for her. There was nothing simple about the way she loved him, so there would be nothing simple about letting him go. This was something she would have to go through until she just didn’t have to go through it anymore. And she would do that by going with what her mind already knew. By changing her focus and simply taking it day by day; while making the conscious decision to put herself first. By appreciating it for what it was and learning from what went wrong. By not letting it make her feel like something was ‘wrong’ with her or her love. By not letting it create self-doubt, or low self-esteem. By not letting it change her (for the worse). By taking time for self-evaluation and allowing room for growth. By learning to set boundaries and sticking to them. By learning to guard her heart, just a little bit more. By not only forgiving him but also forgiving herself. By believing what was meant for her would make its way to her; and it became painfully clear he wasn’t the one for her. She would keep living and loving the way she knew how and eventually she wouldn’t feel the sadness that still lingered. A sadness she wanted to avoid but knew she couldn’t. It was an intense, overwhelming kind of love and heart break that caught her off guard. But, even off guard and through heartache, (one, she thought, she would never recover from) she swore, none of it would make her bitter. She would never let it change how she loved. And she would never, lose hope. She would survive the aftermath.
By Jess M8 years ago in Humans
5 Signs You Still Have Feelings for an Ex/past Dating Relationship
This story is coming from someone who it took a good six years to get over an EX-boyfriend. I know you're probably thinking, "Wow, that's so pathetic..." How did it take you six years? SIX YEARS though?
By Chelle .8 years ago in Humans
How Does Your Zodiac Sign Handle Breakups?
We all have experienced a break up, the crying, missing your significant other, blaming yourself, blaming them and some even take back everything they ever bought you (be happy you’re not with that kind of person). But do you ever wonder if you’re taking it too hard or too personal or maybe not hard enough? Well the stars could possibly help you understand your style when it comes to accepting the end of a relationship. Let’s dive in!
By Ask Robyn Lee8 years ago in Humans
Can Exes Go Back to Being Friends?
There is something to be said for those of us who are able to keep our composure in front of our exes. Yet at the same time, composure is an aside from the emotional attachment, and just how much of that is still linked to romantic feelings and the barriers that no longer exist between two people after lines have been romantically crossed.
By Delilah Jayde8 years ago in Humans
A Cheater's Apology
Here it is, with only a few more minutes left in Father's Day, and we are in a fight. A big one. We've been going strong for two and a half years and you never went through my phone. Until now. And I don't know how I could have been so stupid. You saw the messages exchanged between "Julia" and I, but as you read more and more, you realized "Julia" was really someone from my job who eased his way in when my brother passed away.
By Gracie Jay8 years ago in Humans
To the Guy Who Saw Me as a One Night Stand
You wouldn’t stop messaging me, snapping me, and you wouldn’t stop trying to get my attention. To be honest, I had no problem with that at all. I had just gotten out of one of the most toxic relationships of my entire life and for someone to pay attention to me the way you did; it was nice. You asked my what my favorite color was and my favorite childhood memory even though you really didn’t care. You told me you wanted something real and long term but that was a lie too. I finally gathered my thoughts. My anxiety ridden, second guessing thoughts because I said to myself, "if he wanted to just hookup then he wouldn’t be trying so hard to get to know me.”
By Jessica Melton8 years ago in Humans
Intoxicated
You are like a pack of cigarettes. You make me fall once again for your big and bold promises: “You are more than anything’, “It is different now”, “I am sorry.” They are covered in pixie dust and as I hear every sentence, every syllable, my heart starts pounding… but I know, deep down in my bones, that I have to quit you. For the last time. Forever. And I always start quitting you from the day after, but who am I kidding. Tomorrow is too soon, isn’t it? I will start on Monday.
By Michelle Sarkisyan8 years ago in Humans
Falling Stars
Do not appear where I am going to be is a request that you rarely say aloud. Your gaze talks and your lips do not move. Then you send me a message hidden from the world: it should not have happened this way.
By Michelle Sarkisyan8 years ago in Humans
Batshit Breakup
I seriously never saw myself writing about this, even in private, let alone for all of you to read. But what if writing it makes me feel a little better about it? Let's give it a go shall we?
By Alexis Ybañez8 years ago in Humans
Cheaters Will Always Be Cheaters
He was my first love and my first husband. I wasn't his first love nor his first wife. There was always something mysterious about him and that's what made me interested in him. I took the time to know him and fell deeply in love. I did EVERYTHING for him moneywise, beautywise, relationshipwise, etc. What I didn't know was what he did when he returned to work or home. He always called and met me everyday for hugs and kisses and the "I love you only's."
By Hli Yang8 years ago in Humans
The Things I Never Got to Tell You Before the Year Ended...
I want to first of start by saying that I in no way blame you for anything. I want to thank you for allowing me to spend time with you. All the time, energy, and memories will always be appreciated. In the beginning, I knew it wouldn’t last; there were things that flagged me down up until the night we had sex. But I don’t regret it, or you, one bit. I still stand by my words, as true and sincere as ever. I have never loved anyone the way I loved you. I brought you to my house, and most importantly let you in. I for so long held us together and in that time, I realized how much you emptied me. How much you took for me emotionally and never gave back. I don’t know who did this to you, because I don’t think you are a bad person, I think we’re just bad for each other. We don’t speak the same language, the same ideologies, stubborn righteousness, music, or taste. I always thought we were magnets you and me, but some magnets over time lose force. We both had to have wanted it bad enough, and when one wants it more than the other, the connection fails...
By Ashley Murga8 years ago in Humans